Webbed Feet
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Courtesy or graciousness? I think who is guilt of what is confused.
Mr. Klos,
I want to say that this post is not, and my prior ones here really were not, about this original poster. They were about Paula versus Simon repeatedly on the forum. I'll explain that below. The original post here wasn't all that bad. So I agree with you about that. But then Bear's response was not all that bad either. Especially, given the O.P. has "trainee" up for a status, I agree with her in showing concern for the O.P. Her taking her time to do so was professional courtesy. You just don't want to see it that way. The two of them seem to have worked it out just fine after that without the aid of anyone else.
I certainly agree that typos and a couple of misspellings should be graciously overlooked. But what is happening on the forum is very much like what happens on American Idol. Simon expects contestants in a singing contest, that aspire to be the next American idol, to at least be able to carry a tune and remember the words. Paula seems to want to inspire all the contestants to feel good about themselves, no matter how tune deaf they may be or how many lyrics they can't remember. I see things differently than you do. Simon, in taking his time to listen to these people, shows just as much professional courtesy as any other judge on the show. What he is not is gracious to those that should have known better. Paula typically tries to be gracious to everyone no matter how terrible they are. As the show moves forward, Simon expects the bar to be raised by the contestants themselves. If they don't, he looses what graciousness he has more and more.
So I disagree with you about this professional courtesy thing. Again, I am not referring to this original post in this thread. I am referring to a bunch of other ones. It can be said that when someone like Simon on this forum takes their time to read the posts it is courtesy. We often take our time to respond, that is courtesy. What some of us may lack is graciousness when those presenting themselves as fully licensed appraisers, or people that are to have already studied minimum standards, can't manage to bring hardly any of that with them when they post. With respect to you in saying this, they are not mechanics, plumbers, police, doctors, or teachers. They are supposed to be professional real estate appraisers addressing other professional real estate appraisers. They are supposedly people that make their livings writing reports! If they cannot raise the bar in order to show they have learned something then it is they, that presented themselves this way, that are lacking the professional courtesy you speak of. Because they just stepped up onto the stage to sing and can't carry a tune nor remember the words. They apparently think it is perfectly allowable to not have arrived prepared for the favors they are asking for.
Webbed.
Mr. Klos,
I want to say that this post is not, and my prior ones here really were not, about this original poster. They were about Paula versus Simon repeatedly on the forum. I'll explain that below. The original post here wasn't all that bad. So I agree with you about that. But then Bear's response was not all that bad either. Especially, given the O.P. has "trainee" up for a status, I agree with her in showing concern for the O.P. Her taking her time to do so was professional courtesy. You just don't want to see it that way. The two of them seem to have worked it out just fine after that without the aid of anyone else.
I certainly agree that typos and a couple of misspellings should be graciously overlooked. But what is happening on the forum is very much like what happens on American Idol. Simon expects contestants in a singing contest, that aspire to be the next American idol, to at least be able to carry a tune and remember the words. Paula seems to want to inspire all the contestants to feel good about themselves, no matter how tune deaf they may be or how many lyrics they can't remember. I see things differently than you do. Simon, in taking his time to listen to these people, shows just as much professional courtesy as any other judge on the show. What he is not is gracious to those that should have known better. Paula typically tries to be gracious to everyone no matter how terrible they are. As the show moves forward, Simon expects the bar to be raised by the contestants themselves. If they don't, he looses what graciousness he has more and more.
So I disagree with you about this professional courtesy thing. Again, I am not referring to this original post in this thread. I am referring to a bunch of other ones. It can be said that when someone like Simon on this forum takes their time to read the posts it is courtesy. We often take our time to respond, that is courtesy. What some of us may lack is graciousness when those presenting themselves as fully licensed appraisers, or people that are to have already studied minimum standards, can't manage to bring hardly any of that with them when they post. With respect to you in saying this, they are not mechanics, plumbers, police, doctors, or teachers. They are supposed to be professional real estate appraisers addressing other professional real estate appraisers. They are supposedly people that make their livings writing reports! If they cannot raise the bar in order to show they have learned something then it is they, that presented themselves this way, that are lacking the professional courtesy you speak of. Because they just stepped up onto the stage to sing and can't carry a tune nor remember the words. They apparently think it is perfectly allowable to not have arrived prepared for the favors they are asking for.
Webbed.
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