Sorry, Diva (love your handle) - no offense meant. Usually when someone uses the term team player and appraiser in the same sentence, what they really mean is the appraiser is supposed to make sure the target number gets hit and any property deficiencies are not disclosed. You know - nothing that could stop the loan or the sale. Some of us get just a little touchy on that subject.
I can't speak for your area, and I acknowledge that some appraisers get snotty with Realtors. I would agree there's no need for it - we're all just trying to do our jobs. Personally, I make every effort to be polite and explain that I know they're busy, but I just need a few minutes so I can verify some facts. Here, our MLS requires concessions to be shown. But not every Realtor does it, and they often will not show personal property included. And since Realtors are allowed to practice "puffery" in this state, I like to ask some questions about the condition of the property. Amazing what comes out in those conversations!
There is a flip side to this coin - I don't hit it often, but I do sometimes end up talking to a Realtor who has an attitude. Even then, I try to be polite - but it gets old. Again - we are just trying to do the job mandated for us.