I don't like it either, but not using certain words or talking about the diverse people or using other references wrt people is frowned on in lender work. So either comply or don't; do lender work. IDK, maybe some appraisers have never held another job??
I used to sell Real Estate. Real estate agents study fair housing law, and there are certain things they are taught and tested on, such as what they can and can not say or write. BIG FREAKING DEAL. I worked in advertising, and similar applies. I can not think of a field that intersects with the public where some form of protocol is absent.
On our own time, everyone can act like a jerk or say whatever they/we want -