I have long (as in 30+ years) thought that lenders should not be able to pass any expenses straight through to a borrower. None. Including the appraisal cost. The appraisal is done for the lender, and it should be at the expense of the lender. Asking the borrower to pay a direct fee for the appraisal is no different, to me, than asking them to pay a pro rate share of the rent, the electric bill or any other cost of doing business as a lender. But, hey, I don't make those rules.
My only intent in posting in this thread is to help some better understand how the business actually works. When I was in AMCland we did have orders where our gross exceeded the appraiser's fee - and for everyone of those I could show you several where there was a gross loss because the appraiser fee was more than the AMC total fee.
I hope you all have a great weekend. I am out.