J Grant
Elite Member
- Joined
- Dec 9, 2003
- Professional Status
- Certified Residential Appraiser
- State
- Florida
Sometimes it is both personal and business. Or a personal anticipation of future favors enters into itYou seem to believe it's something beyond "just business" for them. That the intent is personal in nature.
Just because I don't want to date that girl over there doesn't mean I hate her. It just means I think I can do better for myself. That "better for myself" being measured by me, not her. I might be making a mistake in passing her over (or kicking her out), but it's my mistake to make.
She has no say in my decision making. She can't force me to date her or punish me in any way for not dating her. She can waste her time in search of some mode of coercion to force me back into her orbit but it would take an extraordinary mode of coercion to pull that off. Way of the world.
Sometimes people choose not to date someone because they hate them or have other reasons. The reasons do not have to make sense except to the person they belong to.