- Joined
- Jan 15, 2002
- Professional Status
- Certified General Appraiser
- State
- California
I think everyone has to find an approach to interacting with others that works for them. My approach involves trying to maintain realistic expectations for the various parties I deal with.
I don't expect a city official to personally commit to a position of a permissible use that isn't otherwise explicitly stated in the zoning code. So when they're non-committal and vague about that I don't get all torqued about it. They're just doing their thing.
I don't expect a happy homeowner to point out all the defects they're aware of with their property. So when they act the way homeowners normally act I don't let it bother me or interfere with the way I deal with them.
Same with the agents. Just having realistic expectations for their role makes it a lot easier for me to engage with them without taking anything personally. If an individual exceeds those expectations then that's great but if they don't I just consider the source.
I consider that to be an appropriate way to proceed. It's business, not personal.
I don't expect a city official to personally commit to a position of a permissible use that isn't otherwise explicitly stated in the zoning code. So when they're non-committal and vague about that I don't get all torqued about it. They're just doing their thing.
I don't expect a happy homeowner to point out all the defects they're aware of with their property. So when they act the way homeowners normally act I don't let it bother me or interfere with the way I deal with them.
Same with the agents. Just having realistic expectations for their role makes it a lot easier for me to engage with them without taking anything personally. If an individual exceeds those expectations then that's great but if they don't I just consider the source.
I consider that to be an appropriate way to proceed. It's business, not personal.